Quote of the Day

Christmas reminds us we are not alone. We are not unrelated atoms, bouncing and ricocheting amid aliens, but are a part of something, which holds and sustains us. As we struggle with shopping lists and invitations, compounded by December's bad weather, it is good to be reminded that there are people in our lives who are worth this aggravation, and people to whom we are worth the same. Christmas shows us the ties that bind us together, threads of love and caring, woven in the simplest and strongest way within the family.

 

Donald E. Westlake

Christmas Eve

Holidays are always hard when you are single mom.

You think about all the what "if's". The "if only"  and "am I doing enough"

Christmas is my favorite holiday and I want to be able to give my daughter the same memories that I had growing up. So of course, I over compensated this year and bought her everything that she wanted and more. Does that mean I spoil her? No it means that I love her and want her to have the best Christmas that she can have.

What did it mean for me? I sacrificed the new sexy brown boots I wanted, the cute red sweater that shows off a little something and the tight jeans in a size 14 that I worked so hard to get back into after having her.

Why? Because as mom's we scarfiice what we need and want for the needs and wants of our child(ren). That is what we do...unconditionally and without thought.

Tomorrow when she wakes up to see all the presents that Santa brought her...it will make it worth all the hard work and sacrifice that I have made!!

Quote of the Day

It's not only children who grow.  Parents do too.  As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours.  I can't tell my children to reach for the sun.  All I can do is reach for it, myself.  

~Joyce Maynard

Quote for the Day

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.

 

~Henry David Thoreau

First Blog & About Me

My First Blog Entry...I am excited and have so many thoughts running through my head.
I wanted to create a blog that would inspire, encourage and help not only single moms, but moms and parents alike. It is tough being a parent, especially if you are trying to balance a career on top of parenting because it is not easy and sometimes you can't have it all (sorry Oprah.).

I am now officially 2 years removed from my divorce. I can't say that my marriage was great and that I was surprised by my divorce. The fact of the matter is that leading up to my divorce I was having second thoughts, but 5 weeks prior I found out I was pregnant (on birth control pills...so it can happen) hormones raging I just decided what the heck, I didn't want to be a single mom at the time and thought it was best for all involved. My marriage lasted about 1 1/2 years and then I realized that no that he was not the right man for me. I had given my all and I was done. The emotional, and mental drain was too much. The best thing that I could for my daughter was leave and I did.  I am happy so say that my ex and I have put our differences a side and parent wonderfully together, but it wasn't easy and it wasn't through pain and hurt. But we got there because our daughter is the most important thing in the world to the both of us.

As I continue this blog..I will share many things that I have been through and hopefully it will encourage you in your own life. I encourage comments, and sharing and questions. I am an open person and there is no questions that are off limits in my book. I have been through too much in my 30 years to be ashamed of anything.